We love our customers at New You HQ. They really are the nicest of people. And that’s part of the problem. Being nice can actually lead to you gaining weight! Here’s why…
Research has shown one common behavioural pattern seen over and over again among people who are unable to lose weight is the People Pleaser. A People Pleaser is one of the nicest and most helpful people you know. They never say ‘no.’ You can always count on them for a favour. In fact, they spend a great deal of time doing things for other people. They get their work done, help others with their stuff, make all the plans, and are always there for family members and friends. So far this sounds like a good thing. Unfortunately, it can be an extremely unhealthy pattern of behaviour.
Are you a People Pleaser?
Typically, the intense need to please and care for others is deeply rooted in either a fear of rejection and/or fear of failure. Fear of rejection is the underlying feeling that, ‘If I don’t do everything I can to make this person happy they might leave or stop caring for me.’
Fear of rejection can come from early relationships in which love was conditional or in which you were rejected/abandoned by an important person in your life (for example, a parent left or was emotionally unavailable or inconsistently available).
Fear of failure is the underlying feeling that ‘If I make a